Bullies

Bullies come a dime a dozen. There's no age limit for a bully. Speaking to those who are in a relationship with a bully, shut it down! God does not intend for us to go through life being bullied. Most bullies operate out of jealousy and self pity. If you want peace put your foot down. Stop acknowledging these people. The more we answer them the bigger they become. As Jesus hung on the cross one thief taunted Him, questioning Who He really was. The other thief understood Who He was and asked for forgiveness. So even at death a bully has the choice to change but don't wait on death to get them out of your life. A bully doesn't love anyone but themselves (that's not even love). If you have a bully in your life ask God for the courage to leave or disconnect. Ask God to touch their hearts and let them see the damage they're causing. Understand that a bully can be very deceiving. They know the right words to say to make you think they've changed so ask God to help you see who they really are and if they've changed. I really I have women in mind as I'm writing this because our young women need to understand that the men in their lives can be or is a bully. Remember Who created us, remember the power He gave us, remember that He loves us all and remember that we should never submit to anyone who doesn't respect us (man or woman).

Insanity

Good morning family. Woke in the middle of the night to the "insanity" infomercial. I have to stop sleeping with the TV on. I tried laying back down but I couldn't sleep. The word "insanity" just kept running through my head. I began reading and really thinking about the "insanity" in our lives, the "insanity" we create. Maybe you're worried about how much money/time your babymomma/babydaddy is contributing so your mind/heart is filled with resentment. Maybe you're spending your money on expensive things but asking for help to pay for things you need. Maybe your past hurts won't let you move forward/heal relationships that are important to you. Maybe you're working hard for a living but not taking time to live. Maybe you're focusing to much on having a clean house and not enjoying the people who live in it. Maybe you're abusing your body and not caring that one day your insides will let you down. Maybe you've hurt the one you love/ the one who loved you so often that they can't stand the sound of your voice anymore. Just thinking about how I felt last night when I came home made me look at how insane it is to forget all God's blessings just because things aren't the way you think they should be. Thinking about all the people He sends a "ship" load of blessings but they won't get on board because He didn't send a "yacht". Insanity, if we don't refocus and give God thanks. I can't pretend that life is perfect but if we don't change our approach, our thought process, we won't have peace. We cannot continue living in/with "insanity", it's time out for that. I have a friend who is sick right now. She can only dream of doing the things she used to do and I have the nerve to complain about my life, insanity. Praying for each of you as I pray for myself. Asking God for healing and forgiveness. I can no longer live with "insanity". TeamNoMoreInsanityPlease. Bblessedloveyou

Getting My Spirit Right

Most of us were raised to want and desire more. Problem is, most of us weren't given instruction on how to obtain more. Because of our lack of knowledge we struggle with out of control debt, bad credit and living from paycheck to paycheck (some, no paycheck). When you begin to read God's word, you understand that money/things should not be what we work hard for. God wants us to have clean hearts, clean living and to help those in "real" need. He provides all the rest. I hear people complain all the time about their finances, seldom do I hear them take ownership of their situation. Instead they go from one extreme to another. I am guilty. How many have paid high interest rates on borrowed money? How many can't get a place/car in their name? How many have used payday loans? How many have maxed out credit cards and have nothing to show for it? How many have spent or gambled away bill money? How many have spent bill money on their "boo"? How many have expensive cars/purses/shoes/clothes/hair but don't have a dime saved up? How many have children but haven't worked for a living in years? How many have families but haven't thought about who would take care of them if something happened to you? For most of these questions, I had to raise my hand. I thank God for giving me understanding of how I should live. I no longer live for material gain, only for the spiritual. To live any other way only brings frustration/unhappiness. TeamGettingMySpiritRight. Bblessedloveyou

Who You Talking To

Each of has a person in our lives who brings up old "junk". That uncomfortable "junk" that they can't let go of. I know it's true because I used be that "junkie". Years ago I would harp on something I was unhappy about. I would bring it up everyday. My friend Elizabeth had finally had/heard enough, she turned around and said "why don't you talk to the person you're upset with instead of telling us". I immediately shut up because she was right. What relieve was I getting? None. I was looking for someone to validate how I was feeling, someone to be on my side. I was wrong for doing this and a coward for not talking to the person I thought was doing something they shouldn't be doing. Most of us live this way because we don't trust ourselves to have honest conversations with the people in our lives. We assume that an argument will take the place of peaceful communication. We assume the other party has a bad understanding/attitude. We judge prematurely and don't completely reflect on "who" we are/ "who" we've been. Because we're afraid to have an open conversation we end up emotionally tied to an issue, paralyzed or even frozen in a "past" issue that the other person didn't even realize was an issue. Wow, the power we loose by not learning to effectively communicate. Pray about your issues, ask God to give you the right words and timing. Lastly, search your heart to see why you're really bothered/angry. Is the conversation really needed or do you need to let time heal the issue? TeamWhoYouTalkingTo? Bblessedloveyoy

All Clubbed Out

Anyone who grew up in Vernon TX will understand this. As a teenager I couldn't wait until I was old enough to go to the clubs. Vernon is small but we would party all night. The only ID we needed was "parent" approval. Needless to say, I started my clubbing years early. The reason I'm sharing this is because Dee and I grew up in the same place, partied in the same place but by the time we were married and living in another state, he'd out grown the club scene. On the other hand, it took years for me to get it out of my system. I don't have to tell you that this aggravated my husband. He didn't like it and he was right not to. In relationships we must understand that it's our responsibility to mature and release our "childish" desires. Clubbing only provides temporary "excitement". Don't get me wrong, I had fun with my friends, but that fun cost me time with my husband/children. I don't think going "out" is wrong when it's done in moderation, responsibly and respectfully. All of these I missed but by the grace of God my husband and I worked through it. If you're where I was, please take a step back, fun memories can be created at home with your family. Be careful the "fleshly" choices you make don't cause heartache and pain. TeamAllClubbedOut. Bblessedloveyou

Be The One

The Bible tells us that Josiah became king at age 12. He disobeyed God just as His father did. This trend of disobedience is repeated through out the Old Testament. Fathers and sons ruling others and not following/doing God's will. I think about today's families, sons doing as their fathers do/did and it makes me sad. It's a shame that this trend has carried on for so long but all is not lost. Josiah became aware of God's Laws and started living accordingly. See it only takes one father/mother to change/correct their living. If you're a parent, understand that how you live may very well be how your children will live. We all fall into the trap of the "flesh", feeling good temporarily but not understanding the repercussion of avoiding "spiritual" living. Thank God Josiah had the good sense to honor God's Laws after being made aware of them. Some of us know His word but we keep on "trucking" past it as if it doesn't apply to us, good luck with that. Men/women, young and old, take ownership of your spiritual growth. Your fathers and mothers may have fallen, didn't teach you the ways of God, but you have an opportunity to learn for yourself. Don't miss the chance to bring God into the lives of others as well as your own. (Josiah's sons also disobeyed, not doing God's will. don't let it be you who fails God). TeamItOnlyTakesOne. Bblessedlovyou

Read The 10 Commandments

I left my mom's home at the age of 19 or 20 never to live under her roof again. If I'd lived closer to her I probably would have broke "marriage" camp and ran back to her because that would've been easier than facing my responsibilities as a wife/mother. I share this to remind our young adults that life isn't easy and struggles will come but what a great feeling it is to know that you can overcome anything the world throws at you or the craziness you create. You just have to stick with it and don't bring everyone into your business. Let God be the head of your life and not those helpful advisors. I also want to remind our young adults that having family that supports you is a blessing. There are millions of people who can't go back home because their parents feel they've done their job by raising them. There are homeless people who have well to do families that won't take them in because of the mistakes they've made. If you have a family that accepts/supports/loves you, understand that you are blessed. Respect and be thankful for all they do. I love my family dearly, they are always welcome in our home. If you have a mom and dad that you can depend on don't cripple that relationship by being disrespectful. Fathers and mothers be reasonable in your support, know when to go all "in" and know when to back off. Remember God's will for families, unity, love and respect. TeamReadThe10Commandments. Bblessedloveyou